Broken by Words: How ‘Fexting’ Can Ruin Your Relationship


You’re in the thick of a heated discussion with your partner. The exchange is happening entirely over text and it’s only escalating the argument. Sound familiar? If so, you’re not alone. Arguing over text (aka ‘fexting’) has become increasingly common in recent years but this ease and convenience can also be its downfall. Here’s why fexting can ruin your relationship.

What Is ‘Fexting’?

You might have heard of the term “fexting”—or texting that has angry, hurtful, or damaging content. It’s a problem that’s been on the rise in recent years, as people have started to rely more and more on their phones to communicate. And it’s not just limited to angry outbursts. Fexting can also include things like sarcasm, passive aggressiveness, and silent treatments. In other words, anything that can be damaging to a relationship when done over text message.

The Dangers of ‘Fexting’

You might think that arguing over text is no big deal. After all, you’re not face to face, so it can’t be that bad, right? Wrong. Texting can be incredibly damaging to a relationship because it’s easy to misinterpret the tone and emotions behind the words. What might seem like a harmless debate could quickly spiral out of control if one or both of you are not careful. You can’t see the other person’s body language or facial expressions, which can lead to even more misunderstandings. Bottom line: If you’re having an argument with your partner, pick up the phone or meet in person. It’s worth the extra effort to avoid damaging your relationship over text.

How to Avoid the Pitfalls of ‘Fexting’

So you and your partner have had a fight. It’s not the first time, and it probably won’t be the last. But this time, it’s different. Because this time, you’re fighting over text. Here’s how can you avoid the pitfalls of ‘fexting’. Don’t fight over text. If there’s something that needs to be said, have a conversation in person or over the phone. Don’t send anything you wouldn’t want your partner to see or save. Stay calm and level-headed. Responding with anger will only make things worse. Take a break if things get too heated. Responding when you’re emotional isn’t going to help anything.

Why Arguing Over Text Is So Dangerous in Relationships

Have you ever had a fight with your partner where all of a sudden, things just start escalating—and before you know it, you’re both saying things you don’t actually mean? Well, that’s what can happen when you argue over text. Because when you’re not face-to-face with someone, it’s easy to misinterpret what they’re saying. And when there’s miscommunication, that’s when arguments can spiral out of control.So next time you’re feeling frustrated with your partner, put down your phone and have a face-to-face conversation instead. It might not be as convenient, but it’ll be worth it in the long run.

How to Have Healthy Conversations Over Text

If you’re in a relationship, it’s important to be able to have healthy conversations with your partner—and that includes conversations over text. So how can you have healthy conversations over text? First, take a step back and think about what you’re trying to say. If you’re feeling emotional, it might be best to wait a little while before you send that message. Second, remember that tone is hard to convey over text. And finally, try to avoid getting into arguments in the first place. If you can resolve conflicts before they turn into full-blown arguments, you’ll save yourself a lot of stress—and you’ll keep your relationship healthy.


So, what can you do to keep the peace and protect your relationship? Here are some tips. Don’t send anything you wouldn’t want your partner to read out loud in public Never use texts to convey anger or contempt. If it’s getting heated, stop and talk to each other in person. Finally, always remember that texts are not a substitute for real communication.

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